Apparently the vast majority of people don’t want to date transgendered individuals, preferring only to date within their corresponding gender — the one to which they are naturally attracted. This incredibly unsurprising analysis comes courtesy of a study recently published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, which also found that the infinitesimally small minority of folks who were willing to date trans people would only do so if their biological genders were a match. For example: If a straight, white, heterosexual male dated a trans person, he would — by an overwhelming margin — only be willing to date a transgendered man (since a trans man is actually a biological woman.) Sadly, I must take up unnecessary amounts of space explaining and defining these nonsensical terms because, well, this is where we are as a society.
Anyway, as you might imagine, this has all been deemed massively ‘transphobic’ by members of the transgender community and many on the progressive Left, including the pro-LGBTQ blog Them.us. Writer, educator and sex-researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova published a column on the site, in which she attributes the study’s findings to basic “discrimination” motivated largely by the problem of “transphobia” in our society.
The high rates of trans exclusion from potential dating pools are undoubtedly due in part to cisnormativity, cissexism, and transphobia — all of which lead to a lack of knowledge about transgender people and their bodies, discomfort with these unknowns, and fear of being discriminated against by proxy of one’s romantic partner.”
What the good doctor fails to realize — or, more likely, is unwilling to accept — is that cisgenderism is indeed the only true reality because transgenderism does not, in fact, exist. Not only is it a scientific and biological impossibility, but it is also riddled with numerous contradictions. (Many of which are even openly acknowledged by “trans” individuals.) By definition, cisgenderism encompasses “people whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth.” In other words, it’s the opposite of transgenderism, which encompasses people who “have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from their [birth]-assigned sex.”
As I’ve pointed out multiple times in previous columns, transgendered individuals are simply people who self-identify as the opposite sex because they “think” or “feel” or “believe” that they are or should be the opposite sex. This is, however, absurd. Reality and biology — chromosomes in particular — do not change based on one’s personal wishes, whims, emotions or beliefs. To believe such a thing is, quite literally, insane. Gender, biological sex and genetic makeup cannot be altered with surgery or changed based on what one says or what one wears. It is indeed possible to look like or appear to be a member of the opposite sex, but that does not mean that one is or has become a member of that sex. It means only that this person suffers from heartbreaking mental, emotional and spiritual disorders and is in desperate need of help, support and counseling.
This brings me to the real point that needs to be made in the midst of this utter madness. Don’t let writers like Dr. Vrangalova and other trans activists in our culture beat you over the head with their silly rhetoric, flawed premises and judgmental assumptions. The truth is that you don’t have to worry about being ‘transphobic’ because there is no such thing as a ‘transgender’ person. You have no reason to fear or hate or worry about offending something that doesn’t exist in the first place. Moreover, you cannot even be accused of such an action. There is no such thing as a person who is or has become the opposite gender. How can we even assign a “phobia” or an “ism” to something that does not exist?
Think about it like this: Arachnophobia is real because spiders are real. Claustrophobia is real because small spaces are real. Ophidiophobia is real because snakes are real. Racism is real because there are multiple races and man’s heart has the capacity for ignorance and hatred. These are all things that can be tested and measured and documented by finite and conclusive and agreed-upon definitions and examples.
“Transgenderism” — on the other hand — is not scientifically true, easily defined or universally agreed upon, even by trans individuals themselves.
There is a microscopically small demographic of people in this world who suffer from confusion about who they are in terms of their sexuality and therefore proceed to have surgeries and wear clothing that corresponds to the opposite gender. We can (and should) love and pray for these people, but we do not (and should not) have to accept their delusions and falsities as truth. To do so only further perpetuates and feeds their misbeliefs and leads them into additional deception. We should instead lead them toward reality and stability. We should lead them toward Absolute Truth, help and hope. We should lead them toward God.
So, if someone accuses you of being “transphobic,” simply explain that this term is nonsensical considering that the secondary term to which it applies corresponds to a group of people who do not exist in the way that society believes they do. There is no such thing as “transgendered” individuals. There are only sinful, broken, and hurting people in need of truth, grace and redemption. And, in the end, aren’t we all?