A recent story out of the British news agency South West News Service — republished by Fox News — highlights a local Florida family comprised of a mom, a dad and 16 children. Lyette Reback is 44-years-old and a notable charity founder. Together with her husband of 24 years, estate agent David Reback, they have an astonishing 10 daughters and six sons, all between the ages of two and twenty-two. Twelve of their children are biological, while four are adopted.
I’ll give your brain a minute to process those numbers.
Amazingly, Lyette still finds time for lunch with friends, exercise regimens, daily chores and laundry and has even published a book on parenting. I say “amazingly” because I personally have no idea where she finds the time or the self-discipline. I can hardly be disciplined enough to write two to three columns a week while juggling my church media responsibilities, much less a social life. Many media outlets have labeled Lyette a “supermom,” given that she home-schools all of her kids, “shuttles them to 88 sports practices weekly,” and performs the other twelve-million or so responsibilities that every mom must face. It’s no wonder Fox ran the article in their “Fitness & Wellbeing” section.
The story of the Rebacks has been praised as “inspiring” and “wonderful” by hundreds of thousands of readers. Others, however, haven’t been so flattering in their comments. Here’s a small sampling:
“The brood cow didn’t know when to stop!”
“Another breed happy fanatic looking to launch a reality show.”
“What’s up with all the pregnancy photos, narcissist? What a sad way to get attention, spitting out too many children to give each the attention he or she deserves. It’s all about you.”
Indeed, our society would have us believe that any mother who chooses to “spit out too many children” is just desperate to be in the media limelight or rake in loads of cash. I don’t know the Rebacks. I’ve never met them. I don’t know anything about their spiritual, relational or political beliefs. I’ve read three articles and visited their website and social media pages. That’s about it. But, I do know this: It’s never selfish to have or adopt children, particularly in the midst of a progressive culture that worships at the sacred death altars of abortion and euthanasia. It is a selfless, loving and brave act. In fact, I would argue that now may be one of the best times to have children — as doing so flies in the face of the pro-death narratives preached by the satanic abortion radicals and many deranged doctors.
Just recently, an elderly couple in Canada decided to commit suicide together by “receiving a doctor-assisted death” — as if you can receive death as casually as receiving a text message on your iPhone or a box of chocolates from a lover. Rather than describing it as the sad and horrifying tragedy that it was, the media hailed it as “dignified” and “honorable.” But, the truth is that there’s nothing dignified about this kind of death at all. There is dignity in living one’s life, running the race and enduring through adversity until the very end, no matter what your age or physical state. I’m sure I’ll be labeled as callous for this assertion, although I don’t care. God help me, I just can’t see any dignity in glorifying suicidal, voluntary or premeditated death. It’s utterly insane.
When it comes to children, our own nation slaughters almost a million unborn babies on an annual basis, somewhere around 60 million since the 1973 Roe v. Wade legalization of infanticide. We stand on the rotting corpses of these dead children while openly mocking and ridiculing families like the Rebacks — and thousands of others — who have chosen life. What is it about us that causes us to hate big families so much? Why do we despise them? More importantly, why do we despise children in general? A century or so ago it wouldn’t have been uncommon for families living on rural farms to have eight or more biological kids while living with another large family or sharing property. Today, we mock parents who decide to have more than three.
The simple reality is that families like the Rebacks deserve our praise and our prayers. They deserve the praise because, no matter what their personal reasons, they’ve chosen life in a culture that exalts death. They deserve our prayers because raising a family of that size — in a culture desperate to devour and indoctrinate children — is quite a challenge.
And, ultimately, it is why you should think twice before judging them.