Father’s Day will be here on Sunday, although I guess I should really refer to it as “Special Person’s Day” so as to avoid offending anyone. Indeed, we’re living in an age when many people claim to support and defend genuine fatherhood, while simultaneously doing everything in their power to criticize, dismantle and destroy it. In one breath they shout, “We need more dads! Dads are awesome!” and in the very next they scream, “All men are toxic! Let’s rename the day!”
It’s no wonder that this has left many men in modern society confused about their roles as fathers or fathers-to-be, not to mention their role as men in general. They’ve been told that there is something wrong with them based solely on their gender, which means that there must be some sort of problem with masculinity itself. But this is simply not the case. The reality is that our culture has never been in more desperate need of principled, godly men [read: actual men] who are capable of being moral fathers.
This was made rather apparent on Friday — or Freaky Friday as it must be known at CNN — when the network ran a story titled “He gave birth. He breastfed. Now, he wants his son to see him as a man.” They even sent it out as a tweet:
Before I go any further, can we all just take a second to digest the irony of that headline? Anyone who thinks that sentences like “He gave birth,” and “He breastfed” actually make sense no longer has credibility to lecture on science (or fatherhood for that matter.) Moreover, it’s worth pointing out that reporting scientific and biological impossibilities as fact is — quite literally — the very definition of fake news.
Anyway, as I read the story of 24-year-old Sebastion Sparks — a transgender “man” who lives in Atlanta with “his” “wife” Angela— my heart broke. Sparks is, of course, actually a biological female who decided to take testosterone as part of her “transitioning” process and then conceived a child with a man who was “transitioning” to become a transgender woman named Angela. Angela, 33-years-old, ceased hormone treatment long enough for conception to take place. The author of the CNN article is even forced to admit the reality of it all:
Like many transgender men and women, they had been taking medication to increase the testosterone or estrogen in their bodies. So to make a baby, they briefly stopped taking their hormone pills. The couple conceived their son the conventional way, even though their biological roles at the time were not compatible with how they saw themselves.” [emphasis mine]
Is your head spinning yet? Mine is. Stories like this one illustrate precisely why our culture needs fathers who are willing to demonstrate basic morality for their children and, particularly, to teach their sons the Absolute Truths about authentic masculinity. We need a generation of young men who embrace the goodness and truth about genuine manhood rather than naively swallowing false narratives about gender or sexuality. Despite what our culture says, men are different — and always will be different — from women. And every man knows this. It’s literally ingrained into the very fiber of our being. We know it from childhood. Also, it’s not a bad thing that we are different. It’s a beautiful thing. It’s exactly the way things were meant to be.
I had another thought reading the story of Sebastion and Angela. When a man lacks hope, meaning and purpose, his life naturally becomes an empty shell, a dark and tragic void which he must then fill with something, anything, to help him survive. Sadly, thousands of men turn to destructive options like shallow relationships, alcohol, pornography, drugs, and even extreme surgical procedures in an attempt to find the purpose that they seek or to become who they believe they are meant to be. But, these men will continue to remain lost, aimlessly wandering through life without the purpose they sought all along.
Meanwhile, our culture continues to cry out for moral, godly men and fathers, whether we admittedly realize that we need them or not. But we do need them. Father’s Day is significant because fathers are significant. Father’s Day is unique because fathers are unique. What a man contributes to society — and to his family — is unparalleled and exclusive in many ways. And that is worth celebrating, not downplaying, degrading, dismissing or attempting to alter into something it was never intended to be. Let’s try to keep that in mind this Father’s Day.