What’s the first sign of a predictably controversial TV show? Answer: There’s a 98,000 signature petition demanding it be canceled before the first episode even airs.
On Sunday, TLC will be broadcasting a new reality special titled “My Husband’s Not Gay” — which apparently chronicles the experiences a few Mormon men who, although admittedly attracted to other men, have chosen to abide by their religious beliefs and marry women, determined to not act upon their same-sex attractions. As expected, liberals and the Progressive Left in America have gone berserk. After all, a show with a narrative like this is utterly lethal and toxic to their philosophies about, well, everything. Most notably, a show like this debunks the idea that individuals are incapable of resisting their sexual desires. A show like this asserts the idea that people can be defined by their choices and actions, rather than by their desires and urges.
Liberals have gone so far as to call the show “dangerous.”
GLAAD President and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis had this to say: “I think it’s irresponsible to be airing a show with the content that gives the idea that sexual orientation is a choice. This is a discredited and old idea.”
Robin Roberts over at ABC apparently agreed: “To even give the idea that it is a choice can be very dangerous, especially to young people who are dealing with their sexuality and trying to figure things out.”
I’m not really a fan of reality-TV or even the TLC Network, but whenever something comes along that flies in the face of the modern liberal Left’s progressive ideology, I tend to get a little excited. Not to mention, this whole thing is exposing the Left’s hypocrisy at astronomical levels. To that, I can only say, “Bravo!” I have no idea if this show will be any good. I have no idea if it will be successful. For all I know, it could be a total flop and bomb after one lousy season. Judging from the preview, the show seems to cast these men as if they’re societal circus freaks — such a rare breed that they deserve to be spotlighted for all of America to see. But, despite the hint of sarcasm and disrespect, it’s at least presenting the idea that there are indeed alternatives for gay men of faith.
So, here’s the liberal Left — the same people who claim to be the most tolerant bunch out there — attacking a television show they believe to be inherently dangerous to society. The hypocrisy and irony there is remarkable. In addition to the run-of-the-mill Leftists, however, there’s the LGBT community, which is protesting the show because they believe that it promotes an anti-gay reparative therapy of sorts — the idea that you can just “pray away the gay.” They claim that this is a psychologically damaging methodology for confronting same-sex attraction in an individual.
Sally Kohn over at CNN, who is herself openly gay, took issue with the show’s religious element, saying that it “reinforces gay self-loathing by driving home the idea that being gay is inconsistent with being a person of faith. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Maybe what needs changing isn’t these men, but the Mormon Church.”
I hate to break this to Sally, but being gay is absolutely inconsistent with being a person of “faith” — particularly any faith within the Judeo-Christian paradigm. If you adhere to a belief that classifies homosexuality as a sin, then it naturally follows that being gay is inconsistent with your faith. You might not like that or agree with it, but the tenets of centuries-old faiths like Mormonism, Christianity or Catholicism will not change based solely on your feelings. I realize you want to have your cake and eat it too. You want to argue that it is indeed possible to adhere to a faith like Mormonism or Christianity and simultaneously adhere to a gay lifestyle. But, if you’re, say, a self-proclaimed “gay Christian” (as is the case with the dude who started that Change.org petition), you’re actively choosing to ignore God’s stance on homosexuality. You’re picking and choosing what parts of Scriptures to take literally and what parts you believe are open to interpretation or, really, what parts you think can be denied and rejected. The Apostle Paul in his God-inspired letter to the Corinthian church, made it clear that homosexuality is a sin and sinners won’t inherit the kingdom of God. - “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” I Corinthians 6:9-10 [NASB]
If you’re going to posit that you can be gay and simultaneously be a person of faith, you’re going to have to admit to yourself and everyone else that you’re choosing to accept some parts of your faith and reject other parts.
Now, this isn’t to say that it is not possible to be a Christian (or “person of faith”) and to have same-sex attractions. The kicker is whether or not you choose to act upon those attractions. That’s where it really does come down to choice. This would be the case with any sin, just like the other sins listed in that verse from Corinthians. It’s not a sin to struggle with a temptation. We're all human. (And there's forgiveness for sin - 1 John 1:9.) It’s a sin to act upon that temptation, thereby committing the sin itself.
And this is where some in the LGBT community are having an even bigger beef with TLC’s new show. The show's position that being gay is a choice has them all riled up. This was to be expected, really. I mean, this has been debated for decades. They’re just pissed that an opposing viewpoint is about to hit national television. Hence, the petition. Many in the LGBT community have taken to their columns, blogs and social media to argue that being gay is as natural as being “straight” or heterosexual. In other words, they believe that you’re born one way or the other and it’s all about your orientation and identity.
Kohn, who was raised Jewish, interestingly argues that, “In a free society, everyone should be able to make a choice about sexuality…Your sexual identity and self-expression should be up to you.” She continues: “And that is the problem at the heart of “My Husband’s Not Gay” and “reparative therapy”: not the idea that being gay might be a choice, but that being straight is compulsory or forced, whether by religions or society in general. That compulsion is the problem.”
That’s the bigger issue and question staring us in the face within the context of this show and the religious debate: Is your gender or sexual orientation/identity something of choice, natural existence or, in fairness to the religious side of the debate, is it by providence of God? In other words, is sexual orientation determined by a choice in my mind or is it determined by the nature in which God designed me?
When you take a step back and look at our culture, particularly the American way of life, it’s easy to see that we’re a generation and society of selfish choices, personal preferences, creature comforts and individual autonomy. We like the idea of choosing things for ourselves, choosing our destinies, trying to control our lives and circumstances the best we can and, generally, doing our best to stick to the path we’ve carved out for ourselves. And many of us, religious and non-religious alike, often place priority on our personal preferences over God’s priorities. With this in mind, it’s really no surprise that we’re living in an age when personal preference is taking over something that's inarguably inherent to our nature — sexual orientation — and parents are doing things like using drugs to postpone puberty in their children, thereby giving that child the ability to choose his or her sexual orientation later on in life. (No joke.) This sort of madness has to stop before our culture falls apart.
In the context of the religious side to all of this — since that’s what this show seems to be about — we have to address the fact that one side believes that an individual’s sexual orientation is predetermined by God and is inherent to that individual’s nature by design of God, while the majority on the other side believe sexual orientation to be a matter of an individual’s choice. If you’re going to adhere to, particularly, the Judeo-Christian belief about sexual orientation, then you’re going to have to accept that heterosexuality is natural, by design of God, while homosexuality is unnatural — look at Romans 1:25-26 - “…for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.” [NASB]
The Bible is clear that homosexuality is a sin and, honestly, there’s no way around that. And, if you take your Mormon, Christian, Catholic, Jewish or most other faiths seriously and literally, then you must believe it’s a sin. So, a show like “My Husband’s Not Gay” isn’t really dangerous, it’s just accurate within the context of the Mormon faith adhered to by the men in the show.
You individuals in the LGBT community only believe it’s dangerous and controversial because it contradicts what you believe. For crying out loud, can you imagine what would happen if Christians caused this sort of uproar every time a new TV show or movie portrayed something that conflicted with our beliefs? We’d wear ourselves out with petitions and protests. Sexual immorality, murder, foul language and the like all conflict with what most religious people believe. But, you don’t see the majority of the religious community up in arms over it. We’re not picketing outside of movie theaters every time an R-rated flick premieres. In fact, some of us even enjoy a good action or horror flick. Not to mention, free speech through artistic expression is an American value too. Whether you agree with the expression or not is, quite honestly, irrelevant to the artist’s right to express it. TLC has every right to air a show like this, just as other networks have a right to air programs that promote and endorse homosexuality and gay rights. (Remember “The L-Word” series?) That’s the essence of free speech.
By airing this show, TLC is opening up a debate that, in my opinion, is at least healthy for America. The show is controversial for all the right reasons and the LGBT community should back off of trying to have it canceled. If you disagree with the show’s narrative, find a way to broadcast your disagreement and get your opinion out there in a different way. Blog, post social media statuses, engage in message board discussions or whatever. But, don’t try to force a network to remove a program from its lineup just because you don’t like it.
That’s not the behavior of someone who claims to be tolerant. It’s not the behavior of a pro-free speech American. It’s the behavior of borderline socialistic-totalitarianistic-communistic wannabe.
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