The mere mention of the word conjures up all sorts of images, phrases and emotions. Your thoughts and feelings are probably different than mine. Different than your friend’s. Different than your coworker’s. Perhaps even different than your parent’s. (I always end up thinking of this movie clip.)
Maybe marriage is something you long for. Maybe it’s something you enjoy every day. Maybe it’s a distant memory full of heartbreak, tears and betrayal. Maybe you couldn't care less. Whatever the case, it’s a subject full of differing opinions, beliefs and, most recently, definitions.
It’s the redefining that concerns me. Our culture is poisoning the foundation of marriage.
We’ve all but eradicated the Judeo-Christian belief that marriage is a commitment between one man and one woman. (The Judeo-Christian beliefs our country was founded on by the way.) You can thank our courts for that.
Just look around. Sexual perversion is everywhere. Men are marrying men. Women are marrying women. People are living together for group sex, orgies and swinger parties. The teen pregnancy rate is off the charts. Sixty-six percent of men and 41 percent of women are watching pornography — making over 50 percent of Internet activity sex-related in some way and even driving one man to try to legally marry his “porn-filled laptop.” (Sounds like a great guy.) The pornography industry alone is a multi-billion dollar per year industry. Hollywood is starting to embrace films that depict sadomasochism and bondage sex (or BDSM) — the trailer for the upcoming 50 Shades of Grey film was barely primetime TV acceptable.
If we were living in the days of the Old Testament, God would have probably wiped our nation off the map by now. Total destruction. Fire and brimstone. Nothing left but ash and skeletons. Lots of skeletons.
So with all this cultural putrescence and moral anarchy, is it any wonder that 43 percent of America’s young adults would rather take marriage for a no-strings-attached test-drive before saying, “I do.”?
They call it beta-testing marriage.
I’m not surprised by this new statistic. Are you?
I mean, look at all the crap that’s decimating marriages — the porn, the affairs, the substance abuse and addictions. Marriage is just too risky. Why bother making a lifelong commitment when you might want to divorce your partner after a month?
It’s just easier to treat marriage like your iPhone. Or your laptop. Or whatever electronic device you’re holding right now.
I’m typing this post up on my MacBook. It came with a standard one year warranty. So did the TV in my bedroom. Warranties are good. If something goes wrong or you change your mind, return it and get a refund or do an exchange.
But even better are those free trial products. You know — that great antivirus program or the latest computer software. Heck, taking a new car for a test-drive is almost expected these days. Who wouldn’t want to give something a try before laying down hundreds or even thousands of dollars. Right?
But marriage isn’t like the smartphone in your pocket or the sedan sitting in your driveway. There’s no taking marriage for a beta-test. Once you’ve made the commitment to love, honor and cherish one another, you’ve joined yourself to that person for life. There’s no refund option. There’s no two-year trial.
I’ll be the first to confess I’m no expert on marriage. I’m not married. I don’t have a Ph.D. in marriage family therapy. (Yes, it’s a real major. I Googled it.) I’m not even dating right now. But I’m the son of two people who have been married for over 20 years. They have three kids. They both work full-time jobs. They’ve weathered storms, endured hardships and have fought with courage and passion to preserve their commitment to God, to one another and to their family.
Make no mistake: The perverse debauchery in our society is infecting the foundation of marriage like a virus. It’s sweeping across our nation like a plague, leaving thousands of couples and families in its wake. You see it every day in the divorce rate, movies, music and the Internet. And now, it’s all but caused young adults to give up on ever committing to lifelong love.
The evidence speaks for itself. It’s right there. You just have to open your eyes to see it.
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