I don’t know about you, but I’m sick and tired of talking about sexual harassment, perversion and debauchery every day. So, obviously that’s why I’m writing another post about sexual harassment, perversion and debauchery. Stick with me though because — despite what you might think — there’s an important point to be made here that I believe is getting lost in the national conversation. And hopefully this will be the last and final thing I’ll have to say on this grotesque and depressing topic. Well, at least until another harassment victim comes forward, which should be in about five minutes.
Speaking of the national conversation, let’s start there. Most of this chatter has been taking place primarily on the evening newscasts and especially on social media, where everyone seems to be saying the same thing: “OMG! This is so awful! Look at Hollywood! Look at Washington! Look at all the bad politicians! Look at our schools! Look at all the bad men! Look at all the bad women! Predators everywhere! Our culture is falling apart! How did this happen? Run! Run for your life!”
Of course, there are no solutions presented in any of these so-called “conversations.” Not real ones, anyway. Mostly it’s just lots of hysterical fear, paranoia, and complaining. Honestly, I’m not even sure that there are any real solutions for this sort of problem. There are no quick fixes. There’s no one-size-fits-all Band-Aid that would reverse decades of immoral self-indulgence and unhinged depravity. As I mentioned in my last piece, once we invented the notion of gay marriage and normalized “transgenderism,” we essentially opened up the doors for a widespread repetitiveness and eventual acceptance of any perversion — from incest to pedophilia. Next, we’ll be legalizing them.
We haven’t just lowered our standards for sexual morality and basic decency, we’ve obliterated them altogether. We haven’t just blurred the line between acceptable behavior and unacceptable behavior, we’ve erased the line completely.
The latest two examples come courtesy of our nation’s public education system, which seems to be crumbling just as fast as Tinseltown and Washington these days. Earlier this week, a married 22-year-old science teacher in Oklahoma was arrested after being accused of “having a sexual relationship with an underage student.” It happened at Yukon High School, where Hunter Day — who is ironically married to the school’s football coach — was arrested by authorities for having sexual contact with a minor, possession of child pornography and second-degree rape.
That was on Wednesday.
On the exact same day, a married 23-year-old JV cheerleading coach/teacher in Concord, North Carolina named Katherine Ross Ridenhour was arrested for allegedly having a “[consensual] sexual relationship” with a 17-year-old male student. Apparently they shared “inappropriate contact” over the course of a month and a half before finally being caught. Ridenhour — who, ironically, is a graduate of Liberty Christian University — was subsequently charged with “indecent liberties with a student.”
If you’ve spent any time on Facebook or Twitter over the last month or so, you’ve undoubtedly realized that everyone in the country suddenly earned their family counseling and psychology PhDs overnight. It was astonishing, really. Thousands of courageous Americans have taken to their iPhone keyboards to lecture celebrities and politicians and to tell us exactly how to solve the cultural dilemma of sexual immorality. Here are a few solutions presented by these brilliant geniuses:
Men shouldn’t rape. Stop raping.
Women in their twenties shouldn’t have sex with teenage boys. Stop it. Now.
Men shouldn’t grope, fondle, assault or otherwise sexually harass women. Cut it out.
Celebrities and politicians shouldn’t abuse their power or status in order to have sexual relations with whoever they want.
These are great statements. They’ve been great statements for centuries. In fact, I happen to agree with all of them. There’s just one problem: That’s all they are — just statements. They’re not attached to actual solutions or ideas. Truthfully, they could all be summed up by saying: “Bad people should stop doing bad things.” And, again, I would agree wholeheartedly.
But, bad stuff is still happening. Bad people are still doing bad things. Men are still raping. Teachers are still sleeping with students. Celebrities and politicians are still harassing and assaulting. They’re still abusing their power, status and influence to get whatever they want. And the national conversation isn’t advancing because we’re all too terrified to admit that — whether we like it or not — bad people will always do bad things. There’s no sense in ignoring the reality of human nature and sin. Mankind is a wicked, corrupt, vile and fallen species in desperate need of grace, mercy, forgiveness, healing and hope. We can either accept that as truth or we can live in ignorance and pretend that everything is fine.
Now, does this mean that we should just give up and allow our society to collapse as we watch the entire country go to Hell in a hand basket? Of course not. Indeed, we should always be striving to adhere to sound principles, values and morals. We should be raising our children to do the same. We should be going to church. We should be praying. We should be living virtuous, biblical, godly lives. This means that we’ll have to resist temptations like pornography, extramarital affairs, premarital sex, pedophilia, incest, homosexuality, transsexuality, beastiality, impracticality, proportionality or whatever else we can conjure up. Apparently that will be difficult for many people to do. But, we must do it nevertheless.
It might even mean that we have to seek help from pastors or counselors. It might mean that we have to be more conscious of how we carry ourselves in the workplace when we are around members of the opposite sex. It might mean that we have to keep our hormones in check and resist the urge to behave like pigs.
Perhaps if more of us — particularly individuals in the national limelight — were to do this, we wouldn’t have as big of a problem as we seem to have when it comes to rampant sexual immorality and widespread harassment. I’m not suggesting that these actions would prevent every case or solve the fallen nature of mankind. But, they just might reduce the problem significantly. And that would certainly be worth the effort, wouldn’t it?
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